I didn’t expect to faint at the sight of my son’s blood. As a mother, my job
is to nurse boo-boos -- and when when my son came to me after smashing his
thumb a few months ago, I prepared to do my best Florence Nightingale. Then I
saw the blood.
The room began to spin. I broke out in a cold sweat. I felt all the color
drain from my face. After yelling upstairs to my husband to take over, I slid
to the kitchen floor.
Psychologists don’t know exactly why up to 15% of us experience the plunge
Write a list of your "should haves" and
Remind yourself that we all have things we would
do differently if given the chance.
Identify any regrets that you
can act upon, such as thanking a friend who you never properly thanked for an
act of kindness.
Forgive yourself for those regrets that you cannot
act on to correct.
Recognize what you have done well, and
congratulate yourself for it. This may help you put things in better
Be gentle with yourself during this exercise. When looking back on
something in your past, you can usually see the situation more clearly and
think of a better way to handle it. Remind yourself that you did the best you
could, given your circumstances at the time.
If you are having trouble forgiving yourself, talk with a trusted
friend, a member of the clergy, or a health professional. Sharing regrets or
guilty feelings with another person often helps us overcome them.