After a major loss, you may feel insecure and unsure about yourself.
Maintaining relationships may be a struggle at this time. You may have a
difficult time making decisions, paying attention to what others are saying, or
taking care of your personal responsibilities. Later, you may not remember some
of the events happening around you.
These feelings are expected after a major life change. It takes time
to adjust and return to a state of balance after you have become upset by a
major life event.
Kris Oser, 37, of Hastings-on-Hudson, N.Y., is an email fiend. A single
mother and director of communications for a market research company, she has to
be immediately accessible to executives and the news media.
That means Oser is often on the phone and messaging several people at the
same time -- and that can lead to trouble. In one recent gaffe, she mistakenly
emailed a reporter at The Wall Street Journal instead of her best
friend, asking her to pick up Oser’s daughter from school.
If you are feeling insecure and lost, it is best to:
Write down things that you want to
Postpone major decisions or changes in your
Ask for help from other people if you are confused and can't
seem to get things done.
Gather as much information as you can
about what is happening. Do not try to understand more than you can tolerate.
If you start to get lost in someone's discussion or explanation, ask them to
stop and plan a time to talk later.
Keep a written account of
important events and facts and read them to yourself throughout the day if you
are having a hard time taking it all in.
Call911or other emergency services immediately if you are preoccupied with thoughts of death and
have strong urges to hurt or kill yourself.
If your feelings of insecurity frighten you or if you find yourself
in dangerous situations (such as walking city streets alone at night), talk with
a trusted friend, clergy person, mental health professional, or your doctor about what is happening to you.
Call your doctor if you are not able to sleep or
prepare meals for yourself.