By Gretchen Rubin
I'm a real gold-star junkie. One of my worst qualities is my insatiable need for credit; I always want the recognition, the praise, that gold star stuck on my homework. Recently, I was grumbling to my mother about the fact that some extraordinarily praiseworthy effort on my part had gone unremarked upon. My mother wisely responded, "Most people probably don't get the appreciation they deserve." That's right, I realized — for instance, my mother herself! I certainly don't give her...
Tell others in your house that you are going to practice your relaxation exercises. Ask them not to disturb you.
Do your exercises in a comfortable place, away from all distractions and noise.
Lie down on your back or sit with your back straight.
Concentrate on your breathing. Make it slow and steady.
Inhale through your nose. Exhale through either your nose or mouth.
Breathe deeply, filling up the area between your navel and your rib cage. Do not breathe with your chest.
Do not hold your breath.
Continue this breathing pattern for 5 to 10 minutes. Notice the feeling of calmness throughout your whole body.
As you continue to breathe slowly and deeply, relax by doing the following for another 5 to 10 minutes:
Tighten and relax each muscle in your body. You can begin at your toes and work your way up to your head.
Imagine your muscle groups relaxing and becoming heavy.
Empty your mind of all thoughts.
Allow yourself to relax more and more deeply.
Become aware of the state of calmness that surrounds you.
When your time is over, you can bring yourself back to alertness by moving your fingers and toes, then your hands and feet, stretching and moving your entire body. Sometimes people fall asleep during relaxation. They usually wake up shortly afterward.
During relaxation, you can play soothing, relaxing music.
Always give yourself time to return to full alertness before you drive a car or do other activities that might cause an accident if you are not fully alert. Never play a relaxation tape while driving a car.