It's a common complaint: ADHD makes it hard for your child to focus on a task long enough to start it, let alone finish it. Sure, you could pick up that dirty sock on the floor yourself, but your child needs to learn ways to get things done on his own.
These tips could make both your lives easier.
Explain What You Mean
You can't just tell a child with ADHD to go clean her room. That chore is too big for a kid who's easily distracted. And the meaning is hazy: What qualifies as "clean," anyway?
Break down the job into small, specific tasks:
- Put shirts in the drawer.
- Put toys in the basket.
- Put books on the shelf.
- Make the bed.
Write them down, so your kid can check off the tasks as she finishes each one. Add a picture of the clean room to the checklist so she can see the goal.
Make Reminders Obvious
Use large, colorful sticky notes. Put them where they'll do the most good, in places where your child needs to remember something -- "Brush your teeth" on the bathroom mirror or "Do you have your backpack?" by the door, for examples.
Use a calendar for ongoing weekly tasks or projects that will take a while. Get a big one. Hang it somewhere your child will see it many times a day. Let him fill in and check off deadlines.
Kids with ADHD need motivation, so reward a job well done. You don't have to spoil your child with money, expensive gifts, or food. Prizes can be small. It’s more important to give them often.
Give something your child wants. Young kids like stickers or trading cards. Older kids want time on their iPad or cell phone.
Relate the chore to the reward. For instance, give your kid 5 minutes of video-game time for every 5 minutes she spends cleaning.
Avoid big, long-term rewards, like a camping trip if she keeps her room clean for a month. That kind of goal is too abstract and too far off to inspire a kid with ADHD.