Neil Peterson, a transportation specialist in Seattle, knew something was "not quite right" with his bright, sociable daughter Kelsey when she was in elementary school. "It took her so long to learn to read," Peterson says. "She was not hyperactive, but she had tremendous distractibility and an inability to follow through and stay with something." Kelsey's teachers told Peterson not to worry, and he listened.
On the surface, Kelsey was no different from other kids her age -- all young students,...
Instead, the parents' task is to keep their teen safe, without nipping their development in the bud.
"You don't want to make the person a child," says Harold Robert Meyer, founder and executive director of the ADD Resource Center in New York.
The Allure of Risk
It's no secret that some teens don't always show good judgment when it comes risk. But risk may be particularly attractive to teens with ADHD.
Why? "In general, they're more impulsive. They do things without thinking," DeAntonio says. "Another thing is that they often have complaints of being easily bored. Often, what gets their attention are things that are more risky or exciting… and they often don't fully consider the consequences of their acts."
Almost all of his teen patients with ADHD struggle with impulsivity. But only about one-third engage in truly dangerous behaviors, he says. "Some of these behaviors are things that other teens [without ADHD] do, but they're willing to push it to the limits."
For example, teens with ADHD will skateboard, surf, or rock-climb, he says, but "they tend to have more broken bones or they blow their knees out when they're playing sports."
Some also "do things like reckless driving, drug behaviors, sexual behaviors," he says.
Meyer has seen some teens who steal, taunt people, or provoke fights "to produce an adrenaline rush," he says.
Their risky behavior may also happen online. "Many of the kids, especially the girls with ADD, seem to be more trusting of people on the Internet," he says.
For those with low self-esteem, doing risky things can give them a warped form of bragging rights. "They're able to do something that other people can't or won't do," Meyer says.
DeAntonio helps his teen patients to identify the activities that put them in harm's way and to "to help them appreciate the risks that they're taking."