Tips to Teach Kids With ADHD How to Get Stuff Done
It's a common complaint: ADHD makes it hard for your child to focus on a task long enough to start it, let alone finish it. Sure, you could pick up that dirty sock on the floor yourself,but your child needs to learn ways to get things done on his own.
These tips can make both your lives easier.
Explain What You Mean
You can't just tell a child with ADHD to go clean her room. This chore is too big for a kid who's easily distracted. And the meaning is hazy: What qualifies as "clean," anyway?
Break down the job into small, specific tasks:
- Put shirts in the drawer.
- Put toys in the basket.
- Put books on the shelf.
- Make the bed.
Write them down, so your kid can check off the tasks as she finishes each one. Add a picture of the clean room to the checklist so she can see the goal.
Make Reminders Clear
Use large, colorful sticky notes. Put them where they'll do the most good, in places where your child needs to remember something: "Brush your teeth" on the bathroom mirror or "Do you have your backpack?" by the door, for examples.
Use a calendar for ongoing weekly tasks or projects that will take a while. Get a big one. Hang it somewhere your child will see it many times a day. Let him fill in and check off deadlines.
Kids with ADHD need motivation, so reward a job well done. You don't have to spoil your child with money, expensive gifts, or food. Prizes can be small. It’s more important to give them often.
Give something your child wants. Young kids like stickers or trading cards. Older kids want time on their iPad or cell phone.
Relate the chore to the reward. For instance, give your kid 5 minutes of video game time for every 5 minutes she spends cleaning.
Avoid big, long-term rewards, like a camping trip if they she keeps her room clean for a month. That kind of goal is too abstract and too far off to inspire a kid with ADHD.
Help With Time Management
Does your child promise to walk the dog, do his homework, and clean his room in the half hour before dinner? He’s clearly not aware of how long all that will take.
Coach him into coming up with sensible time-frames for each piece. Help him figure out what he needs to do first and what can wait.
Give your child a timer or alarm, perhaps on a watch or phone, when he’s doing a task. Set it to go off every few minutes. If he gets sidetracked, the sound will remind him to focus.
If you get frustrated when your child doesn't follow through, remember that it's not her fault. It's just how her brain works.
Having ADHD is hard for her, too. She probably gets called out by teachers, peers, and maybe even you many times a day.
Don’t dwell on her mistakes. Focus on her strengths and play up her successes.