An Expectant Dad's Guide to Pregnancy
You got her pregnant, but are you ready for the nine month roller coaster? Consider this your expectant father’s survival guide.
Prenatal Visits and the Expectant Father continued...
Afterward, don't be surprised if she needs you to "spend half an hour
drying tears over the weight gain and explaining that, 'no, you don't look like
a cow,'" Woods says. Another thing that could catch you off guard is the
internal pelvic exam, which may be done in front of you. It's a standard
obstetric procedure, but to the guy standing there while his wife has one --
even a guy who happens to be a medical doctor -- "no matter what, it just
seems weird," Woods says.
During the 20th week of pregnancy, an ultrasound exam is normally done. This
is when many parents get a first glimpse of the baby and take home a sonogram
snapshot for the baby's album. Sometimes ultrasound is used earlier in
pregnancy to screen for birth defects or if a doctor suspects a problem.
Ultrasound at 20 weeks can also reveal the baby's sex. You may choose to find
out what it is or wait to be surprised.
The Grand Finale
At some point, the mom-to-be will draw up her birth plan. That's a detailed
description of how she wants to do labor and delivery -- where to go, who'll
attend the delivery, how she intends to labor, whom she wants in the room, and
what your role will be. Taking a birthing class together can help you figure
out the best practical ways to support her throughout labor.
When the moment arrives, all might go according to the plan. Circumstances
could also trash the plan utterly. Woods says that in his experience, having
attended the birth of several hundred babies, it's usually the
Because there are so many different ways for labor and delivery to play out,
it's difficult to describe a typical experience for a father-to-be in much
detail. Saying that any part of it will go one way or another involves a bunch
of assumptions that may not be true for everyone.
Nevertheless, it's fair to assume that you'll deliver in a hospital, which
is where 99% of all births in the United States occur. That means there will be
doctors and nurses around, with medical support available as needed. If you
plan on going to a certain hospital, you may benefit from visiting the
maternity unit (what this is called differs from hospital to hospital) well in
advance of the due date to get a real sense of what the place is like.
Anticipate spending at least 48 hours there for the delivery.