Parenting the Picky Eater
Why Johnny won't eat
Severe reminds parents that, more often than not, kids under 5 are going to be selective eaters.
"It's rare to have a child that will eat anything you put in front of them. Being selective is actually normal," he says. Ward agrees. She prefers the phrase "limited eater" instead of "picky" because it is less negative.
Catharine has asked that her family not focus on Fenner's eating habits. "I don't want her to become known as the famous family picky eater," she says.
Nor does Catharine want Fenner to be lavished with praise for every bite she eats. "I don't want her to get the message that she's good or bad based on what she eats," she says.
Build on the Positives
"Often when I sit down with parents, we'll often find that their child actually does eat two or three things from each food group," says Ward. Just as children can get great comfort out of reading the same story over and over, they also enjoy having a set of "predictable" foods.
"Even though they aren't getting a wide variety of foods, they are actually doing OK nutritionally," says Ward. When the child goes through a growth spurt and has a bigger appetite, use that opportunity to introduce new foods to their list of old standbys, she says.
Expose, Expose, Expose
Ward says a child needs to be exposed to a new food between 10 and 15 times before he or she will accept it. But many parents give up long before that, thinking their child just doesn't like it, she says. So even if your child only plays with the strawberry on her plate, don't give up. One day she just may surprise you by taking a bite. However, don't go overboard and try to introduce three new foods at every meal, says Severe. Limit exposure to one or two new foods a week.
Avoid using sweets as a bribe to get kids to eat something else, says Johnston Pawel. Doing so can send the message that doing the right thing should involve an external reward. The real reward of sound nutrition is a healthy body, not a chocolate cupcake, she says.