Parenting the Picky Eater
Why Johnny won't eat
Examine Your Role Model
Make sure you aren't asking kids to "do as I say, not as I
do," says Johnston Pawel. If your own diet is based mainly on fat, sugar,
and salt, you can hardly expect your child to embrace a dinner salad over
Don't make your child's eating habits part of the mealtime
discussion, says Ward. Otherwise every meal becomes a stressful event, centered
on what the child does and does not eat. Ward suggests parents reserve talks
about the importance of good eating for later, perhaps at bedtime or story
time. Catharine says this approach has worked for her. "I work hard to make
it a nonissue," she says. "Otherwise it would make me crazy."
Give It Time
"I find that children become much more open to trying new
foods after the age of 5," says Ward. "Most of the time kids will
simply grow out of limited eating," she says.
Catharine is looking forward to that day. "In the meantime,
as long as Fenner is growing and reaching all her developmental goals, I'm OK
with her eating the same foods over and over," she says.
Melissa says Brandon's somewhat eccentric demands are already
improving. She's been working with him to learn that while he can have
preferences, his every wish can't always be accommodated. A recent outing to a
restaurant provided a small victory when Brandon was able to eat something even
though it wasn't exactly as he wanted it.
"Hang in there," Melissa advises other parents.
"Make sure they know you love them, stick to your guns, and it will all
come out OK in the end."