The Social Side of Pregnancy
If you’ve spent time online lately, you’ve probably come across plenty of pregnancy-related pictures and updates. Most expectant moms turn to the Internet for information and advice and to share what they’re going through. But how much should you reveal on social media -- and at what point in your pregnancy?
“There’s no set answer,” says Siobhan Dolan, MD, a New York-based OB/GYN and medical advisor to the March of Dimes. Even so, there are several things to ask yourself before you click “post” on your computer or smartphone. These four questions can help you feel good about the social media decisions you make while you’re pregnant.
“How Will I Feel If Something Goes Wrong?”
Experts often say to wait until after your first trimester to inform friends and family -- either in person or online -- that you’re having a baby. The reason? During the first 3 months, more than 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. But the odds drop to less than 5% after the first trimester. That makes it a “safer” time to share.
“Miscarriage is almost always a very sad and emotionally difficult event,” says David Adamson, MD, a reproductive endocrinologist and a founder of ARC Fertility in San Jose, CA. Before you post about a new pregnancy, Adamson recommends asking yourself, “Can I tell this group of people bad news, too, if I have to?”
“How Do I Feel About This Pregnancy?”
Rosie Pope took social media on a case-by-case basis when she was pregnant with each of her four children. During the second pregnancy, she posted almost nothing about the experience.
“I had a difficult time conceiving between my first and second kids. That made me wary of sharing,” says the 36-year-old.
But when she was expecting her third child, “I flipped in the other direction. I talked about my pregnancy a lot on Facebook and Twitter, and even live-tweeted my birth,” says Pope, who’s the founder of MomPrep, which offers prenatal and postnatal classes and training. “I was more comfortable that time around and thought it could help other expecting women learn about the birthing experience.”