Pregnancy's Ups and Downs
Pregnancy can have problems and trouble-free periods -- and either situation is normal.
Arlene Robles and Bobbie No are sisters who are both expecting
a second child. They say their pregnancies have been relatively problem-free.
In the four months she's been carrying the baby, No has thrown up only once,
and at eight and a-half months, Robles has felt no morning sickness at all. The
two have said they haven't felt particularly moody, nor have they had much
jitters about having an addition to the family.
Yet further questioning reveals that each woman has her lion's
share of concerns -- some similar, some very different from the other's. Both
worry about having enough space in their homes for their growing families,
about the pros and cons of day care for their children, and about how their
careers will affect their families.
As a national sales coordinator for a San Francisco radio
station, Robles thoroughly enjoys her job. With a new baby on the way, however,
she's thinking more about how she could be more available for her kids.
"Working with the media in San Francisco was just where I
wanted to be," says the 31-year-old. "But the long hours at work,
getting up early to commute, and getting home late just isn't going to work
with the kids."
It was fine when she and her husband had only Emerson, their
5-year-old son. He's already in preschool, and will soon be in kindergarten
full-time. A newborn, though, would require more round-the-clock attention.
Robles doesn't want to risk missing the baby's milestones, considering herself
lucky enough to have caught Emerson's first words and steps, even though she
worked full-time. Plus, she wants to keep an eye on how her son will adjust to
being an older brother. Although she and her husband have taken him to
sibling-preparation classes, in the past he's been visibly uncomfortable seeing
his mom carrying a baby.
On the other hand, No isn't worried at all about her first
daughter, Alani. The 7-year-old has been excited about becoming a big sister,
and has many activities, such as soccer and Tae Kwon Do, to keep her busy. No's
main concern is figuring out whether or not it's worth it for her to work
full-time. If all or most of the money she makes goes to day care, she thinks
it might be better for her to stay at home with the kids.