Rite of Passage or Cry for Help?
Why Teens Shoplift
Your daughter is wearing bracelets and earrings you don't
recognize or buying expensive gifts for friends. Your son's CD collection has
suddenly grown. Or worse, you pick up the phone one day to hear a police voice:
Your teenager has been picked up for shoplifting.
Parental nightmare? Yes. But does this mean your child is on
the road to juvenile delinquency? Maybe, but unlikely.
"An awful lot of kids, boys and girls, ages 12, 13, or 14,
even younger, get involved with shoplifting," says Anthony E. Wolf, PhD,
author of Get Out of My Life: But First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the
Mall? "As a clinical psychologist, when I hear about a teenager
shoplifting, I don't think, 'Oh my God, this is a pathological situation' --
although it may be."
- About 23 million people in the U.S. steal from retail stores -- one in 11
- Although teenagers 13-17 make up just 7% of the U.S. population, they
account for 25% of all shoplifters arrested.
- 89% of kids say they know other kids who shoplift.
- 20% of adults who shoplift say they started stealing in their teens.
Why Teens Shoplift
Most juveniles caught shoplifting, when asked why they did it,
will say, "I don't know," says Sharon Jones of Shoplifters Alternative,
a nonprofit organization based in Jericho, N.Y., that conducts education
programs for juvenile offenders. As for adults, the reasons kids shoplift vary.
But often they do it because they want nice things, feel pressured by friends,
or simply do it for the thrill, Jones says. Typically, the items teens steal
are things they can't afford or are not allowed to have, like CDs and tapes,
cosmetics, stylish clothes, cigarettes, or consumer electronics.
Another contributor is the combination of poor impulse control
and adolescent vulnerability that characterizes the preteen years.
"Teenagers new to a sense of their own autonomy want to show to themselves
that they can do bad and naughty things. It gives them a sense of power and
excitement," Wolf says. They also may be showing off to friends or they may
steal merchandise on a dare. "The effect of the group is powerful in this
age group. They'll goad each other into it."
Obviously, kids are driven to shoplift for more serious
reasons, too. Teens may be acting out because of stress at home or because they
feel unworthy, unattractive, or not accepted. They may be depressed, confused,
or mad at the world. "Most teens know the difference between right and
wrong, but if problems mount, they become vulnerable to temptation," Jones
There is also a big difference between the young adolescent who
steals and an adolescent who is 15 and older, Wolf says. As teens grow older,
they mature and think more about consequences. The temptation may still be
there but the potential downside outweighs the benefits. "It would be a
similar issue to a 3-year-old who is biting. I'm concerned. I don't like
it," Wolf says. "But if a 12-year-old bites it's another
If a child is still shoplifting at 15 or older, it may be a
sign of a conduct disorder or impulse control disorder known as