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How Giving Love Makes You Feel Loved

Did the whole family remember to give warm greetings and farewells? continued...

I noticed an added benefit from following this resolution. One of my most important personal commandments is to act the way I want to feel. We think we act because of the way we feel, but often we feel because of the way we act. By acting in a loving way, I prompt loving feelings in myself, and this shows. My family feels more loved by me, and I feel more loving toward them.

An enthusiastic "Hello!" or "Goodbye!" is a small thing — very small. Nevertheless, it makes a real difference. As Benjamin Franklin pointed out, "Human felicity is produc'd not so much by great pieces of good fortune that seldom happen, as by little advantages that occur every day."

I freely admit that it does seem a bit preposterous to depend on a formal, family-wide resolution to encourage a gesture that could be considered simple politeness. But the fact is that this simple resolution — to say hello and goodbye with tenderness and enthusiasm — has made us all much happier.

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