What do you want to do with your life? It's a question usually pondered by
new college graduates, people thinking of switching careers, and those
experiencing a midlife crisis. Yet the query has recently gotten some new
In www.43things.com, a web site where people can share their life
objectives, some 40,000 people have reportedly posted their goals. The wish
list varies. "Find a soul mate," "Write a novel," "Swim with sharks," and "Go
to bed by midnight every day for a week" are some of the entries.
By Gretchen Rubin
I'm a real gold-star junkie. One of my worst qualities is my insatiable need for credit; I always want the recognition, the praise, that gold star stuck on my homework. Recently, I was grumbling to my mother about the fact that some extraordinarily praiseworthy effort on my part had gone unremarked upon. My mother wisely responded, "Most people probably don't get the appreciation they deserve." That's right, I realized — for instance, my mother herself! I certainly don't give her...
Several books with "live life to the fullest" themes have also been
published of late, including No Opportunity Wasted: Creating a List for
Life by Phil Keoghan, 101 Things To Do Before You Die by Richard
Horne, and 2Do Before I Die by Michael Ogden and Chris Day.
"We're not here to tell people how to live their lives, but we are
interested in the wide variety of possibilities and answers," says Ogden, whose
book features stories of people who have accomplished a goal. Fulfilled
objectives include parachuting from a plane, asking out a total stranger, and
living in Italy for a year.
In the book, Ogden also shared his own experience of recording a music
"I thought, one day I'll be dead, and (I asked myself), 'What experiences do
I want to explore?'" says Ogden. "For me, I wrote these songs, and I can play
them on a guitar. But I can also hear the base, harmonies, and everything
together in my head. I thought the only way to produce that is to record
Record his songs he did. After weeks of searching for musicians who could
help him in his quest, he met a guitarist who had built a home studio for his
own band. The guitarist helped him produce the tracks.
"In producing the album, I had the greatest time," says Ogden. "I knew that
whether I lived five or 50 years after that, that I would always remember that
The tale may sound inspiring, but does making a life list work for most
people or is it mostly a setup for disappointment? WebMD discussed the issue
with fitness and psychology experts and got some ideas on how to make an
effective list of life objectives.