In One Year, Out the Other
This year, try giving resolutions a rest and just do your best.
The Hardest Thing You Ever Do?
Darin P. St. George, a personal trainer who works under the pseudonym
Trainer X at Gold's Gym in Natick, Mass., suggests that New Year's resolutions
are as fleeting as the rose petals littering the streets of Pasadena after the
Rose Bowl parade has gone by.
When Johnny and Janey Come-lately schlep into his gym on Jan. 2, resolved to
turn their lives around with a new exercise regimen, their first
training session involves a reality check to the gut, he tells WebMD.
"I tell people straight up: I'm not in this business to lie to you,"
St. George says. "This is going to be the hardest thing you ever do: you
are turning back the hands of time. There are lot of machines in this gym, but
there are no time machines."
It's OK to make New Year's resolutions, but only if you see them not as
unbreakable promises to yourself, but as positive statements about
possibilities, says Jason Elias, PhD, a staff psychologist at McLean Hospital
in Belmont, Mass.
"What New Year's resolutions tend to be is a statement of your
motivation of your intentions -- like a bit of cheerleading for yourself,"
he tells WebMD. "But the problem with that is that sometimes people set
their goals too high, such as 'getting my life back on track,' and those things
are way too big to keep track of, to know whether or not you're even making
progress on them."
Elias says what can be helpful for keeping New Year's resolutions is public
accountability: Make a resolution and share it with others.
"When people make a resolution and say to family and friends 'I'm going
to lose weight,' that sort of 'outs'
them and helps them stick to a plan," Elias says. "But if they don't
have a plan, they aren't going to get very far, So the resolution should be
something like, 'I'm going to wake up at 6 on Monday, put my shoes on, and go
to the gym.'"
Accentuate the Positive
The problem with most New Year's resolutions is that they tend to accentuate
the negative rather than latch on to the affirmative, says Lynne Brodie of
Carnelian Coaching in Ashburn, Va.