By Carrie Sloan
The Rumor: Family patterns are almost impossible to change, whether they're healthy or not
You and your family members have been doing a certain dance for decades, and everyone knows their footwork. The minute you try to change it up, you’re going to step on toes. This is especially true around the holidays, when we tend to revert to our 12-year-old selves. “You go back to your original dynamics,” says Karen Sherman, Ph.D., a psychologist and relationship specialist in Long...
"I do believe some people think they have talent," Marjorie Brody, co-author of the book on networking titled You Can't Do It Alone and president of Brody Communications in Jenkintown, Pa., tells WebMD. And some do have the talent to showcase.
"The second group, I believe, are those who don't have a lot of talent and may know it, but who crave a lot of attention." People in this second group, Brody says, may think about themselves a lot but, paradoxically, may not have a lot of pride.
Brody also identifies a third group of aspirants. "I think people try out on a dare," she laughs. "I don't have evidence of that. But I think they say, 'What is the worst that can happen? I could not get on TV? I could get on but be booed off? Hey, I was on TV at least.' They are not into the vanity part of it."
Following Your Dream
David Brownstein, a certified life coach and president of Hollywood Coaching, once worked with a client who tried out for a different reality show to replace a member of the band INXS.
"I think it's healthy to go after your dream," Brownstein tells WebMD. "If you always wanted to be a singer and you're a secretary, this is one way to go after it."
Carole Lieberman, MD, a clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of Dreams Interrupted: Psychological Survival Guide for Coping With Terrorism, worked with contestants on Big Brother and Survivor. She tells WebMD that most people who go on American Idol want a fast track to fame. "Even if you don't win, you still get opportunities," she points out. "Just being on once gets you seen by more people than would see you in 10 years of trying to break in."