On my last day of vacation in Italy, a chatty café owner in Rome introduced me to a tall, charming Italian man. He was a local artist, I learned; his name was Marco. Just a day earlier, my friend Lynn and I had sat in a piazza in Florence talking about how hard it is to meet nice guys. It had been two years since my last relationship, and, admittedly, I'd grown a little standoffish with the opposite sex. Lynn and I agreed that I could open up a little more. So when I met Marco, I figured...
"I do believe some people think they have talent," Marjorie Brody,
co-author of the book on networking titled You Can't Do It Alone and
president of Brody Communications in Jenkintown, Pa., tells WebMD. And some do
have the talent to showcase.
"The second group, I believe, are those who don't have a lot of talent
and may know it, but who crave a lot of attention." People in this second
group, Brody says, may think about themselves a lot but, paradoxically, may not
have a lot of pride.
Brody also identifies a third group of aspirants. "I think people try
out on a dare," she laughs. "I don't have evidence of that. But I think
they say, 'What is the worst that can happen? I could not get on TV? I could
get on but be booed off? Hey, I was on TV at least.' They are not into the
vanity part of it."
Following Your Dream
David Brownstein, a certified life coach and president of Hollywood
Coaching, once worked with a client who tried out for a different reality show
to replace a member of the band INXS.
"I think it's healthy to go after your dream," Brownstein tells
WebMD. "If you always wanted to be a singer and you're a secretary, this is
one way to go after it."
Carole Lieberman, MD, a clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author
of Dreams Interrupted: Psychological Survival Guide for Coping With
Terrorism, worked with contestants on Big Brother and
Survivor. She tells WebMD that most people who go on American
Idol want a fast track to fame. "Even if you don't win, you still get
opportunities," she points out. "Just being on once gets you seen by
more people than would see you in 10 years of trying to break in."