Women Feel Guiltier About Today’s ‘24/7’ Jobs
Study Shows Women Are More Distressed Than Men by After-Hour Emails and Calls From the Office
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Be Realistic About Responsibilities
The new study findings also resonate with Anne Parker, a wellness counselor at Miraval Health Resort in Tucson, Ariz., who regularly counsels women on the effects of stress.
“Women tend to feel more globally responsible than men and that means they feel more responsible for what happens at work and what happens at home,” she says.
There are things women can do to cope with these emotions in a more positive way, she says.
“We need to be more realistic about our responsibilities,” she says. “Are we running up against our own expectations or are we talking about responsibilities and expectations that are real in an objective way.”
Put another way: Are you suffering from the disease to please and just trying to do it all, or does your boss really expect you to return emails during family dinner hour?
When feelings of guilt do arise, take a step back and ask yourself, “What can I deal with right now,” she suggests.
“If your children need to be fed and you have an email from work, you have a choice,” Parker says.
“There is an idea of being available all the time that amplifies the stress particularly if you are already feeling responsible.”
Log off or tune out, she says. “Set hours in which you are not available to answer emails.”
Guilt can have negative effects if it builds up over time. “If prolonged, guilt can initiate a fight or flight stress response,” she says.
If your body is poised for fight, there are increases in detrimental stress hormones. “We also tend to make bad choices to feel better with food or alcohol,” she says.