Poor communication is one of the
biggest causes of
stress at work, school, and home. Being unable to talk about
your needs, concerns, and frustrations can create stress. Being assertive helps
you communicate without causing stress to yourself and others. Assertiveness is
a skill that you can learn and put into practice.
In most cases, being assertive works better than being passive
or aggressive. With
passive communication, you may not express your
opinions, feelings, and needs. With aggressive communication, you
honestly state your opinions, feelings, and needs, but you do it at the expense
- Assertive communication means speaking up for
yourself in a thoughtful, tactful way. Being assertive helps you express
yourself about things that matter to you. This reduces stress by helping you
feel more in control of a situation.
- You can use the steps below to help you define a problem,
describe it to others, and express your feelings.
- Write out your
plan to be more assertive, and get comfortable with it. Practice it out loud so
you can hear what your assertive statements sound like.
- To be more
assertive, you focus on what you say and how you say it. Using the right body
language helps you communicate more assertively.
How can you be more assertive?