The best answer to
the question, "Is there anything you need?" is "Yes."
need someone to stay here so I can go out." Or "Yes, I could really use a nap."
Letting others help can make your caregiving easier. Know where to find help
when you need it. The more support you have, the more successful you are likely
By Gretchen Rubin
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When family or friends offer to lend a hand, be ready with
specific ideas. Let them pick something they would like to do. For example, you
could ask them to:
Pick up a few items at the grocery store.
Fix a meal
or do some cleaning or yard work.
Stay with the person you care for
so you can go out for a while.
There are other ways to find support. For example:
Hire a teenager or older adult to help for a few hours a
Find a grocery store that delivers.
Hire a home
health aide or personal care assistant.
Sign up for homemaker or
chore services or "Meals on Wheels."
Services that may be useful to caregivers include the
Respite care may be the most
important service for caregivers. Respite services provide someone who will
stay with the person while you get out of the house for a few hours. If the
person you are caring for needs routine medical care, you may be able to
arrange to have the person stay in a nursing home for a few days while you get
away for a break.
Adult day centers are
"drop-off" sites where a person who does not need individual supervision can
stay during the day. This service is usually offered during working hours and
may or may not be available on weekends. Meals, personal care services, and
social activities are provided.
Adult foster care or board-and-care homes are private homes
where older adults receive around-the-clock personal care, supervision, and
meals. Some states require board-and-care homes to be licensed.
Nursing homes generally have two levels of care.
Intermediate care includes assistance with using the toilet, dressing, and
personal care for people who do not have serious medical conditions. Skilled
nursing care is usually for people who have just come from the hospital or for
others who have medical conditions that require more intensive nursing care.
Some facilities have special units for people with dementia.