Grief and Grieving - Home Treatment
Helping others cope with grief
There are many ways
that family members and other people close to a person who is grieving can give
help and support. The best way to help a grieving person often depends on how
well the person was prepared for the loss, the person's perception of death,
and his or her personality and coping style. The person's age and stage of
emotional development are also important to think about when you are helping a person who
If someone you know is grieving:
- Encourage the person to grieve at his or her
own pace. The grieving process does not happen in a step-by-step or orderly
fashion. There will be good days and bad days. Do not try to "fix" the person's
grief. Provide support and be willing to listen.
- Be sensitive to
the effect of your words. But don't ignore the person who is grieving just because you aren't sure what to say. Check in regularly during the first year and beyond, especially on important days, including the anniversary of the death, holidays, and birthdays.
- Recognize that this person's life has
changed forever. Encourage the person to participate in activities that involve
and build his or her support network.
- Respect the person's personal
beliefs. Listen to his or her feelings without making judgments. Do not try to
change the person's beliefs or feelings.
Helping young children who are
grieving can be challenging for adult caregivers. The best way to help a child
varies according to age and emotional development.
- Grief: Helping Children With Grief
Teens may need special
consideration and care when they are grieving. Many times it is hard to
know how to approach and help a teen in these circumstances.
- Grief: Helping Teens With Grief
Older adults may not express grief
in the same way as other adults. Older adults are more likely to become
physically ill after a major loss. They may already have a chronic physical
illness or other conditions that interfere with their ability to grieve or that
become worse when they are grieving. Also, older adults may be likely to
complications associated with grieving. Older adults
may be more likely than other people to experience several losses in a short
period of time.
- Grief: Helping Older Adults With Grief