You have just been diagnosed with an illness that will last your
entire lifetime. You may have many different feelings, such as anger,
resentment, or denial. These feelings are normal and expected, because you are
experiencing the loss of what your life was like before you were diagnosed with
Sometimes I think my memory is actually too good. Like when I realize I still know the lyrics to nearly every song released in the '80s. Or that I can recite, verbatim, lines from at least half a dozen episodes of Seinfeld and Sex and the City. But then I'll go to transfer a load of laundry into the dryer and discover that it's already dry; seems I forgot to ever turn on the washer. Or I'll forget my neighbor's name — again. Could it be that sitcom dialogue and song lyrics are taking...
Becoming aware of your loss. Although there are
steps you have to start taking immediately to care for this disease, think
about what having this disease means to you. You may feel numb and lost. Try to
identify the things you feel you have lost.
There are many ways to express your feelings, such as irritability, restlessness, and
being more quiet than usual. You may feel you are not the same person you were
before the loss. You might question the significance and purpose of the loss. And you may need to talk about your loss in religious or spiritual
Adjusting to the loss. Your feelings will become less intense
as you fit in and adjust to the changes you need to make because of this
disease. Over time, these new skills and tasks will become part of your daily
Recognizing that you are experiencing a major loss and dealing with
your grief will give you more control over your life and your ability to manage
If you find that you need help in dealing with your feelings, talk
with your doctor about counseling.
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November 04, 2013
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