Bipolar Romantic Relationships: Dating and Marriage
Whether you or your loved one has bipolar disorder, you can learn to make the relationship work.
Healing a Troubled Relationship continued...
Though you may want to crawl into your self-imposed cocoon when you're
depressed, and feel like you're on top of the world when you're manic, it's
important to accept help when it's offered. "I think," Haltzman says, "it
sometimes helps to have a contract." With this contract, you can decide ahead
of time under which circumstances you will agree to let your partner help
For the spouse of the bipolar person, knowing when to offer help involves
recognizing how your partner is feeling. "You really have to work at it to
understand what the other person is going through," McNulty tells WebMD. "And
you have to be alert to their moods." McNulty is now remarried to a woman who
also has bipolar disorder. When one of them notices that the other is starting
to slide into depression, he or she will ask, "How do you feel?" and "What do
you need from me?" This gentle offering helps keep both partners on track.
Here are a few other ways to help relieve some of the stress on your
- Take your medication as prescribed. And keep all of your appointments with
your health care provider.
- Take a marriage education class.
- Manage your stress in whatever way works for you, whether it's writing in a
journal, taking long walks, or listening to music. Try to balance work with
more enjoyable activities.
- Stick to a regular sleep cycle.
- Eat healthfully and exercise
- Avoid alcohol and caffeine.
If you ever think about hurting yourself or committing suicide, get help immediately.