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    Play With Me

    By Shelly L. Huhtanen
    WebMD Feature from “Exceptional Parent” Magazine

    Children with autism find it difficult to socialize with their peers and many of our children with autism lack appropriate play skills. The ability for our children to play is important because it can develop language and encourage imagination. Play can also lessen our children’s isolation and create opportunities to interact with their peers. Children often connect through play and having similar likes and dislikes. My typical child Hayden will identify friends by what they like to play with and talk about on the playground. I’ll find myself associating his friends with the connections they have with my son. I remember Hayden running up to a boy on Halloween and asking to take a picture with him because he had on an Iron Man costume, just like Hayden’s costume. He did not know this boy, but there was an instant connection due to them liking the same things.

    Lately, Hayden and I have been talking a lot about Broden’s autism because he has been bringing up some great questions. In return, I’ve tried to ask some questions to Hayden to encourage him to describe his feeling about Broden’s autism and to find ways to create situations where they can connect. I asked Hayden the other day, “What do you not like about Broden?” Hayden was very quick to answer. He said, “I don’t like Broden because he doesn’t like to play with the same things that I like to play with.” Broden is only 20 months younger than Hayden. Hayden knows Broden is going to be 5 years old soon and he remembers very distinctly what he played with when he was that age. Hayden said, “Mom, I played with GI Joe and Star Wars. Broden doesn’t like that stuff.” A light went on in my head.

    I spoke with Broden’s BCBA (Board Certified Behavior Analyst) and relayed to her the discussion I had with Hayden. I asked her if there was any way that we could take a look at the toys we were teaching Broden to play with at his ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) clinic. Instead of teaching Broden to play with a barn or an alphabet game, we decided to create our own list of toys for Broden to learn to play with and ask Hayden for help. With Hayden’s help, we could assure that Broden would learn to play with toys that Hayden would like and this, in turn, would help Hayden feel included.

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