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Breast Cancer: Answers to Your Questions

How do you tell the kids? How can you stay calm? There are some questions your doctor can't answer. Here are insights from people who understand – other women with breast cancer.

How do I deal with insensitive comments?

You'd better brace yourself. No matter how wonderful your friends, family and co-workers are, some of them are bound to say things that drive you crazy!

Imagine a dozen people a day saying, "You look good!" when they see you. (Funny how no one says that if you aren't sick.)

Imagine being asked over and over, "How do you feel?"

And then, of course, there's the relative or friend who may say earnestly, "How long do you have?"

Don't scoff. Many women with breast cancer have heard those lines.

You deal with them in any way that feels right to you. Make a wisecrack. Or, simply say, "You wouldn't believe how insensitive that sounds." Don't worry about being polite. Remember, the insensitive lout probably also cares about you. So use the awkward moment to educate him or her. We'll all thank you for it.


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