Me and the Girls: Jenee Bobbora
Her treatment, which took about a year, was often exhausting. "It took me a
good two years before I had even remotely close to the energy level that I felt
like I had before I was diagnosed," she says.
But she has no regrets. Bobbora likes the "big hammer theory" of treating
breast cancer. "The big hammer theory is that when you find out that you have
cancer, you find the biggest hammer that you have and you use it," she says.
"You don't go, 'Well, I would really rather not have that,' or 'I don't want to
lose my hair'... It's a very serious disease and it's not to be messed around
with. But you can overcome it."
No reconstruction: Because of her intensive radiation therapy,
Bobbora says her doctors advised against trying to do breast
"I said fine," Bobbora recalls. "Frankly, I was so tired the first years
after my treatment, and my daughter was 2, and then 3, and then 4. It has just
not been a priority for me." Bobbora says she hasn't ruled out reconstruction
at a later date, and talked to a plastic surgeon about it last year but was
daunted by what she heard about being in the hospital for seven days and not
being able to drive or lift anything for six weeks afterward.
"I'm like, Stop!" Bobbora says. "I don't even want to think about that right
now. Every year that's gone by, it's really not a big deal for me.... I think I
do want to do it, I just don't know when it's going to be."
Adjusting to her new appearance took some work.
"When I first saw my scar, I was like, 'Oh, this is just so attractive.' You
have to accept it. It is what it is, and you have to try to find a way to make
yourself feel attractive," Bobbora says.
She wears breast prostheses every day that slip into her bra or tank
"The prostheses are actually pretty nice," Bobbora says. "They're silicone
and they're not heavy and they come in all sizes... The first ones I got were
huge! I don't know what I was thinking," she says. "As time has gone by, I'm
like, OK, calm down. I got some smaller ones."
Bobbora says her husband, Bill, has been supportive of her choices. "He's
either the best actor in the whole world or it just has not even phased him.
And probably, it's a little bit of both. He's been a complete doll or a
Help with family: When Bobbora was diagnosed, her daughter, Jenna,
was 2 years old. "Help with my child was huge for me, that someone would pick
her up and take her to Chuck E. Cheese. I didn't feel like she was having to
not be a child because her mom has cancer."