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In the meantime, she's reveling in her white-hot career. "Modern Family" starts its fifth season in the fall, and she has two couldn't-be-more-different films coming out soon: director John Turturro's comedy Fading Gigolo, with Woody Allen, Sharon Stone, and Liev Schreiber, and Machete Kills, with Mel Gibson, Jessica Alba, and Michelle Rodriguez. She also has a new line of "shapewear for soccer moms," available at Kmart stores.
Finding herself in comedy was a happy accident, Vergara says. "When I decided to be an actress, I didn't know that's what I'd be doing. But I started to get cast in comedies and began to realize that was the direction I was supposed to go in." Ultimately, she'd like to see herself with a long acting career like that of another iconic star with a similar name: Sophia Loren. "She's had an amazing career internationally and is still beautiful and active today," Vergara says. "She had a loving family and a marriage of decades. I think that's amazing, to be able to juggle all that."
Talking to Kids About Cancer
Vergara says one of the hardest things about being diagnosed with cancer was telling her young son, Manolo. "I tried not to panic in front of him," she says. "Of course, I told him that I had to go to the doctor and have an operation, but I didn't want it to be very dramatic. I explained that I was going to try and take care of it, but what can an 8-year-old kid do?"
Vergara was right to be open with her son, says Jen Singer, a New Jersey writer who was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin lymphoma in 2007, when her sons were 8 and 10. She's created the web site parentingwithcancer.com as a resource for parents like herself and Vergara.
Nearly 3 million children in the U.S. are living with a parent who has cancer or has survived cancer -- and half a million of them are witnessing the earliest and most intense stage of their mom's or dad's treatment.
"When kids are old enough to understand what cancer means -- probably around 8 or so -- you need to use that word and explain there are different types of cancer," Singer says. "If your particular cancer is curable, say that. If it's highly treatable, say that. Put it as positively as possible."
What else does your child need to know?
You can't catch it. "When you tell a child you're sick, they think of things like colds, and they worry it could happen to them, too," Singer says.
You didn't cause it. "Kids have magical thinking," says Singer. "They believe they can make things happen with their thoughts. You need to reassure them that this didn't happen because they had a bad thought about you."