Women Cancer Survivors Take Charge
A new generation of women shake up what it means to have cancer.
Crazy, Sexy Survivors continued...
"I was petrified at first," she recalls. "It was my ‘needle off
the record’ moment." But she turned her fear into action. She founded a
corporation called “Save My Ass Technologies, Inc." and began to film a
documentary of her search for a cure.
For starters, Carr interviewed potential doctors the same way she’d
interview a potential employee. She learned a lot along the way.
"If your doctor has the bedside manner of Dog the Bounty Hunter, it
might not be a good partnership," she says. "Look for the person who
knows the most."
Don’t let the white coat intimidate you, she says. "Everyone has gut
feelings and intuition, and doctors can intimidate you into not using
Carr's search for a cure also involved a foray into the sometimes wacky
world of complementary medicine.
"If Western medicine doesn't have answers or answers that you like, look
elsewhere," she says. "Complementary medicine can give a patient a
really empowering feeling," she says.
"Cancer is bigger than a cell count or a tumor," she says.
"There won’t be a cure without both members of the team playing together,”
Carr says of the marriage between Western medicine and complementary medicine,
which includes everything from herbs and yoga to acupuncture and diet.
She also learned that it can be challenging to prove to others that you are
OK, she says. "I still get people that say, 'Bless you dear heart, keep up
the fight' when I come out and do book signings," she says. "It's never
a patient who makes me feel terminal. I often think, 'Did you just miss the
whole point? I am more alive than you are.'”
But Carr is not totally fearless. "I learned to manage fear and not
allow it to take me down," she says. "If I get scared, it usually means
that I am out of balance in another area," Carr says. "Is a cough just
a cough? You can become so debilitated and fall into hypochondria, and when I
get to those places I know it’s time to do something as simple as go for a walk
and change the environment."