Personality Clues for Teenagers
Understand your personality traits and make amazing choices
Are you a stress-sensitive teen? continued...
"Responsive teens often see their peers taking on many commitments at school
and after school," Sundstrom explains. "While these sensitive teens want to
compete and fit in with the crowd, they usually find the extra commitments far
more challenging and have extreme difficulty when they overextend."
Sundstrom recommends that stress-sensitive or responsive teens spend time
understanding themselves so they can develop the proper pacing and get the
emotional support they need. "If responsive teens take on more than they can
reasonably handle, they easily get stressed out, even ill. Once they're in
overload, they are more prone to cope in unhealthy ways, with eating disorders,
cigarette smoking or alcohol and drug use. Many responsive or stress-sensitive
teens risk suffering depression, and even suicidal tendencies, when they are
Are you a stress-tolerant teen?
If you identified with Scenario 2, you are probably more stress
tolerant or resilient. Resilient teens deal with life's pressures in a calm
manner. Nothing seems to throw them. They handle disappointments and
frustrating situations just as they handle exciting times - with emotional
balance. Resilient teens rarely get upset or nervous, and when they do, they
snap back the next day, ready to take on more challenges.
Sundstrom points out that many choices in high school and college hinge on
personality traits. "If you are the outgoing, resilient teen, you might want to
live on campus and have a roommate. If you are the responsive, stress-sensitive
teen, you might need a private room with no roommate, so you can close the door
and be alone when you begin to feel stressed."
Don't crash and burn
Let's face it. Being a hormonal teenager in itself is stressful. But when
you add other stressors like difficult classes, exams, part-time jobs, and peer
pressure, it's enough to put stress-sensitive teens over the edge. There
is a better way to live.
Sundstrom recommends that teens stop and take some time to get to know
themselves. "You can find a simple personality test on the Internet and do a
profile designed for teens to establish your unique traits. Also, talk to your
school counselor or a professional therapist about taking a personality
School counselors have access to individual personality tests. It's just a
matter of inquiring about them. Professional therapists may be able to
interpret the results of personality tests, giving you deeper insight into what
the traits mean to you-and how you can change your behavior and make amazing
decisions that fit your unique traits.
Know your stress style and thrive
Most importantly, Sundstrom warns, know who you are. Know what makes
you feel satisfied and fulfilled, and what makes you feel stressed out.
Understand your limits before you take on one more commitment or project. The
more aware you are of your stress style, whether responsive or resilient, the
better able you'll be to find your special interests and feel successful with