When a pet dies, it's common for people to feel as though they've lost a
member of the family. For children, this is often their first encounter with
death. In an attempt to soften the blow, parents sometimes explain the death of
a pet in vague ways or skirt the topic altogether. But experts say this just
makes things worse by leaving children anxious and mystified.
Explaining a pet's death to children in a clear, respectful manner can go a
long way toward making the journey a little less distressful, and at the same
time enhance your connection with your child. Here are some of the most common
questions parents ask about what to tell their children when a pet dies.
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When a pet dies, what do children think and believe?
Young children aren't developmentally ready to understand death in the same
way adults do. As their understanding deepens over time, the lens through which
they view death changes too. From ages 3 to 5, children tend to view death as
temporary and reversible. They may believe you can bring a pet back to life by
taking it to the doctor for a shot. Magical thinking also may prompt your
4-year-old to believe he somehow caused the pet's death when he wished for a
playful puppy to replace an elderly dog with bad breath and health
From ages 6 to 8, children usually know death is irreversible but believe it
only happens to others. They understand the concept but may not be able to
accept that a death is happening to them. From ages 9 to 11, children come to
understand that death is inevitable, even for them. However, children in these
age ranges may still feel somewhat responsible for the pet's death, thinking
their beloved pet may not have died if only they'd taken her for more dog walks
or kept the water bowl full.
Of course, each child is unique, says Abigail McNamee, PhD, EdD, chair of
the Department of Early Childhood and Childhood Education at City University of
New York. McNamee says parents should consider the following questions: "How
many experiences has your child had with death? How have you talked with him or
her about death? What's been seen on television?" McNamee tells WebMD that all
these things will influence your child's ability to understand and accept a