A lot is happening within the
brains and bodies of children ages 6 to 10. Along with growing stronger and
more social, most children gradually gain critical thinking skills and a basic
understanding of complex issues. Also, children are becoming more aware of
their bodies and appearance.
This is a time of trial and error.
Children in this age group are figuring out how the world works and what their
place is in it. It is easy for parents to be alarmed when their child has
occasional lapses in appropriate behavior or judgment.
By Neil Osterweil
If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, then teenagers
must be from a galaxy far, far, away indeed.
At least it can seem that way when parents and adolescents try
to communicate with one another. Sometimes, in the heat of an argument or even
a casual how-was-your-day conversation, that kid slouching in the corner can
seem like a speck floating in the void millions of light years away.
It's not that parents and their adolescent offspring can't
communicate, but that...
Try to encourage
your child's independence while you demonstrate your unconditional love. A child
who feels he or she has a strong safety net at home is better equipped to try
new things and to grow and develop in healthy ways.
concerns of parents usually relate to physical growth and development,
difficulties in school, and social situations.
Issues related to physical appearance and skills
The rate of growth varies a lot among individual children. Some
children are small for their age, and others are large. It can be hard for a
child who falls outside the range of "normal." A small child may find it hard
to succeed in sports. Children who are tall for their age may have problems
when people think they are older and expect them to act that way. Also, some
children, particularly girls, are "early bloomers" and may enter
puberty before their peers. This can lead to
self-consciousness and embarrassment.
Help your child understand
that everyone grows at his or her own pace. Assure your child that he or she
can handle difficulties related to size, appearance, or athletic skill.
Also, encourage and model
healthy eating and
physical activity habits for your child. Staying at a
healthy weight and eating healthy foods helps children to feel their best not
only physically but also mentally and emotionally.
Difficulties in school
Children ages 6 to 10 develop at different rates not only physically but
also intellectually. If your child seems to be struggling in certain subjects
and is not meeting general
cognitive development or
language development milestones, talk to your doctor.
Keep an open mind about having your child evaluated instead of waiting for him
or her to "grow out of it." Of course, be mindful that there is a fine line
between being concerned and over-reacting. Talk to your child's teacher and
other school staff about your child's strengths and weaknesses. Keep a friendly
and supportive relationship with your child's teachers to help build your
child's confidence. Working as a team also is likely to result in a more
consistent approach. A child is more likely to know what to expect and be more
assured when parents and teachers are helping each other.
strengthen your child's self-esteem. Help your child
recognize and nurture his or her own talents. Children in this age group
often experience a wide range of emotions that can change very quickly
depending on what is happening around them. Try to show your child how to see
the big picture. Talk about all the successes he or she has had, such as doing
well on a test, learning new spelling words, or making an impressive art