Hope for People Stuck in Grief
Program That Targets Long-Term Mourning Works Well, Study Shows
Grief Remains Center Stage continued...
While all of these emotions are normal after the loss of a loved one, Shear says that over time these feeling should become less intense. For some people this happens in a few months, for others a few years.
"When you lose someone you love you never stop feeling sad about it," she says. "But in normal grieving it doesn't stay the dominant focus of your mental life. With complicated grief these feelings stay center stage."
Shear says her program merges some of the most effective treatments for depression and but targets issues associated with death and separation.
In one exercise, patients carry on imagined conversations with their dead loved one, exploring unresolved issues. In another, patients talk in detail about their loved one's actual death and later listen to taped recordings of their musings.
"Once they hear themselves talking about it, the death does not stay so intrusive in their thoughts," she says.
In another exercise, patients were asked to think about specific personal goals that they would have if their grief was not so strong and to take steps to accomplish them.
"Standard bereavement counseling encourages patients to move forward with their lives after they start to feel better," she says. "The treatment we developed encourages people to move forward with their lives at the same time as they are dealing with the loss."
Over the course of the three-year study, 51% of the participants who got the targeted complicated grief treatment showed significant improvements, compared with 28% of those treated with more traditional psychotherapy. Patients who got the targeted treatment also responded much faster.
"Our treatment findings suggest that complicated grief is a specific condition in need of a specific treatment," Shear and colleagues write.
Virginia Eskridge is a believer. Although she was highly skeptical when she entered the program, she says the treatment has helped change her life.
"I still have occasional downtimes, but they don't seem to be centered around my husband like they used to be," she says. "They are more about just dealing with the day-to-day realities of life."