Jan. 1, 2001 -- When David Resnick's wife, Susan, experienced severe postpartum depression after the birth of their second child, the couple's world fell apart. "I went into survival mode," David Resnick says. "I had a wife who was clearly ill, a 4-month-old baby, and a 3-year-old daughter."
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To make matters worse, other family crises also loomed. "At the time, my mother was diagnosed with stage IV ovarian cancer, my wife's mom had a bad back, and my sister-in-law who lives down the street just had twins," says David. "There weren't a lot of family members to help us."
An estimated one in 10 new moms experience postpartum depression, or PPD, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Except for the timing of the illness and the vivid, disturbing thoughts of hurting or killing the baby that some women experience, the symptoms of PPD otherwise mirror those of major depression. Symptoms can include sleep disturbances, fatigue, sadness, loss of interest, appetite changes, weight loss or gain, difficulty concentrating or making decisions, irritability, agitation, feelings of worthlessness, and suicidal thoughts.
As David Resnick soon discovered, information and support for the male partners of women with PPD are slim. A study published in the July/August 1999 issue of The American Journal of Maternal/Child Nursing indicated that the partners of women suffering from PPD often feel overwhelming frustration, fear, anger, resentment, confusion, and isolation. "As a man, it's really hard to deal with all of those emotions," David says.
Getting a diagnosis also can be a problem. Susan Resnick first went to her primary care physician for help, but he missed the diagnosis. "He said I should take a vacation," Susan Resnick says. But the couple knew more was going on than a vacation could cure.
PPD often is confused with the so-called "baby blues," characterized by weepiness, anxiety, irritability, and fatigue that typically end within 10 days of delivery. But unlike the baby blues, PPD can emerge anytime -- even months -- after the delivery and last a year or more if not treated. While doctors speculate that PPD is related to complex physiological changes occurring in the mother's body after her baby's delivery, the exact cause remains unknown.