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Problems With Sex Drive and Orgasm continued...

Poor blood sugar control can drag down your sex drive. So can depression, which is more common in women than in men. Some drugs used to treat depression may also dampen your desire.

If you've been depressed or anxious for more than a couple of weeks, talk to your doctor. Counseling, drugs, or learning how to lower stress can help. If you are already taking a depression drug and think it may be bringing down your interest in sex, talk to your doctor. You may be able to find one that is less likely to cause sexual side effects.

You may need more time and stimulation to climax when you have diabetes. Whether the cause is nerve damage or emotional issues, make foreplay part of sex, if it isn't already. Oral sex, sex toys, stroking, and cuddling can help arouse women and men, especially as you age. "Self-stimulation, or masturbation, can also help a woman get to know her body better," Roszler says.

If you can't climax because you have a lot of nerve damage, counseling can help you learn to enjoy sex without orgasm.