Losing Weight as a Couple: Double Trouble or Twice the Determination?
Losing Weight as a Couple: Avoid Emotional Eating continued...
When you look to food as consolation, it's difficult to stop eating when you
are full or to resist comfort foods. If you don't use food to elevate your
mood, you may find it difficult to understand why your partner finds relief in
eating a few candy bars or a huge bowl of ice cream.
Here are some tips to help you and your partner avoid emotional eating:
- Alert your partner when you feel a binge coming on. If possible, take a
short walk or a bike ride together to take the focus away from food.
- Make a list of non-food related activities to do together or alone when you
have the urge to drown your sorrows in food.
- Be attentive to food and mood links throughout your day. Keep a journal,
recording everything you eat, when you eat it, and your emotions at the
Losing Weight as a Couple: To Weigh or Not to Weigh?
Is it a good idea to weigh yourself every day when you are on a diet? It
turns out that daily weighing may benefit your waistline, -- but it may not be
so good for your relationship.
Researchers at the University of Minnesota monitored the weigh-in habits of
about 1,800 dieting adults and found that those who stepped on the scale every
day lost an average of 12 pounds over two years, while weekly scale watchers
lost only six. Daily weigh-ins also meant dieters were less likely to regain
But, as discussed above, losing weight is often a slower process for men
then for women, making daily weigh-ins frustrating for women who have male diet
partners. To avoid tension with your partner:
- Find the weigh-in style that suits each of them.
- Concentrate on how their clothes fit and how they feel rather than what the
- Avoid comparing weight loss with their partners.
Getting support from a diet buddy, especially one you live with, helps you
soldier on when you'd rather skip your daily walk and eat a double cheeseburger
and fries instead. But what happens when you're ready to change for the better,
and your partner is not on board, or he or she breaks your mutual agreement to
eat better and exercise more?
Couples tend to eat in comfortable patterns that they may have developed
over years of living together. If one member of the couple suddenly disrupts
this familiar pattern, it is bound to be unsettling for the other. "Any
change in eating routines may create fear, anxiety and hurt feelings," Sass
says. "You partner may feel left out of the process, or threatened by your
The trick is to stay true to yourself without resenting your significant
other for not being on board. "You can invite your friend or loved one to
join you in making changes, but don't expect them to do it," Hanich
If you are determined to lose weight and get in shape and your partner
doesn't want to join you, be sure to:
- Talk openly with your partner about your plan, and ask for support
- Take responsibility for yourself only
- Focus on your own progress to stay on track. Don't let your partner's
habits become your undoing.
- Don't preach, or pester your partner to join you.