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How to Deal With Diet Saboteurs

When you're trying to lose weight, often your friends and loved ones become the greatest obstacle. Learn how to turn these diet saboteurs into diet supporters.

How to Deal With Diet Saboteurs continued...

To a husband, say right out: "Honey, I love you. We have been together 15 years. I am not going anywhere. You are my best friend and I need your help and understanding." (This may or may not be the time to say, "You could afford to drop a few, too.")

To co-workers, you can say, "I am still the same person I always was, but I am carrying excess body weight and want to get rid of it. I won't succeed if you don't help."

If someone persists in offering food, say, "It looks great. Maybe later." Make sure later never comes. They won't notice.

What True Friends Can Do

If you know someone who is trying to change life eating patterns, talk about it openly.

  • Offer to take a walk instead of going to the sub shop at lunchtime -- make the meeting, not the food, the focus.
  • Become a diet buddy and get on board if you want to.
  • If you start to say something negative or discouraging, ask yourself why.
  • If you are the office manager, get diet sodas in the machine or arrange for discounted gym memberships.
  • Plan a fun vacation when a goal is achieved.

Most of all, Ryan says: "Bring flowers, not candy."

Star Lawrence is a medical journalist based in the Phoenix area.

Published Jan. 19, 2004.

Reviewed on January 16, 2004

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