My Relationship With Food: Breaking Up Is Hard to Do - But So Worth It
Newsflash: "This just in -- Diana Potter wants the world to know the
truth about her longstanding on-and-off relationship with food. In a hastily
called press conference following the explosive announcement that she's ending
her career as a professional overeater, Potter said today:
'Despite the swirl of rumors surrounding my relationship with Rich Food, it
is not true that we are getting a divorce. We remain good friends, and we will
continue to have respect and even affection for each other. However, the
excitement and magic are gone, and we've agreed it's time to move on.'
"Stay tuned as we follow the twists and turns of this absorbing human
drama being played out under the bright glare of public scrutiny."
Yes, the excitement and magic of uncontrollably stuffing myself with food
are gone now. But what a ride it was! I vividly remember the passions my
"forbidden love" for food aroused in me: desire, ecstasy, despair -- a
classic romantic rollercoaster.
Only it was a roller-coaster with only me on it. A wild ride, yes. But a
Meanwhile, during the many years I lived this way, the vast, incredibly rich
drama and excitement of real life -- friends, interests, love, social
activities, growth toward goals -- went on. And finally the day came when a
tiny voice from the deepest part of my mind and heart broke through to protest
my fat, lonely life. At last, I began to want more.
It took awhile, though, for that tiny voice of reason to strengthen until it
could override the unreasoning fears that food and fat had helped me control
for so long. But in therapy, I gradually began to respond to it.
I've told you about some of the first actions I took to express my growing
desire for change: reading self-help books, writing down my feelings, even
loving teddy bears as a step toward having the courage to love the people
around me -- and to let them know it.
Finally one day I presented myself for therapy, scared of revealing how
"bad" I was, fearful of criticism, and amazed that I was actually
taking the chance of reaching out to an "other" for help after keeping
my distance from others for so long.