My Relationship With Food: Breaking Up Is Hard to Do - But So Worth It
This proved to be more difficult than I'd expected. Even after I
"graduated" from therapy, I still thought about food. And I still liked
to eat a lot of it when a good meal presented itself. I wondered if these
things were more or less in the normal range, or if I was in danger of slipping
back into overeating and getting fat.
So I went back to my therapist and presented her with my concerns. As we
talked, I realized I'd been expecting to put food on a further-back burner than
was really possible. Of course I thought about food, especially when I
was hungry, as everyone does. As for eating a lot of something I liked, I
did need to watch out there, but not because I was craving the food -- I
wasn't. It was because like everyone else, if I ate more than I needed, I'd
gain weight! What a concept!
Bottom line: It was still early in my process of growing out of a powerfully
compelling lifetime habit. I needed to relax and give myself time to adjust to
what in fact has proved to be real and lasting change.
This is the last chapter in this series. I hope that some of what I
experienced in breaking free from emotional eating may be helping you do it,
If you answered the self-questions accompanying the chapters in this series,
you may have a strengthened sense that your emotional eating and your fat are
concealing things about yourself that you want to know. From my experience, the
people who can help are out there now -- and they'll be there to help and
support you whenever you're ready to begin your quest. Good luck!
Should You Consider "Breaking Up" With Some Foods?
To learn more, ask yourself:
- What foods do you really love to eat until you can't eat any more?
- How do you feel while you're eating those foods?
- Do those foods have the power to make you feel good or bad about
- Do you love the foods so much, you can't imagine life without them?
- Do you give up other activities you might enjoy in order to get and eat the
foods you love?
- Do you feel you can never get enough of those foods?
- When you want the food you love and can't get it, how do you feel?