Coping With a Genital Herpes Diagnosis
Dealing With Anger About Having Herpes
Then, ask yourself: Did the person from whom I got genital herpes want to infect me? Again, probably not. Most people with genital herpes don't know they're infected. Unless that person knew, and neglected to tell you, there's no reason for anger. In any case, having sex means you accept the risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease. Don't beat yourself up, or anyone else, because you didn't fully understand the risk.
These are only a few of the personal issues you may face in dealing with your diagnosis. There's also the hard task of telling your partner, the thorny issues involved in dating, and the things you should and shouldn't do when you have sex.
You don't have to deal with all this on your own. If you feel uncomfortable talking about your feelings with people you know, you can hash things over with others who have herpes, in either an online or in-person support group. Be assured that you're not the only person in this situation. A counselor or therapist can also help you resolve some issues.