The Secrets of Aging Well
You've Gotta Have Friends continued...
Other studies have confirmed the health-promoting power of
social connections. At the UCLA School of Medicine's geriatrics division,
Teresa Seeman, PhD, evaluated adults in their 70s over a seven-year period. She
found that those with satisfying social relationships remained more mentally
alert over the course of the study, with less age-related mental decline than
people who were more isolated.
No one is certain exactly how a social network may help you
stay healthy, although some research has shown that men and women who live
alone tend to eat less well, which could jeopardize their physical and mental
well-being. People with social connections also may have stronger
disease-fighting immune systems.
"We're still struggling to understand it," says
Vaillant. "People who use alcohol or are depressed are less likely to have
social support, and thus personal relationships are an indicator that you're
leading the rest of your life pretty well."
At RAND, a policy research "think tank" in Santa
Monica, behavioral scientist Joan Tucker, PhD, says that having people in your
life can make you feel loved and cared for, which can enhance your mental
well-being. At the same time, a spouse or close friend can also remind you to
go for walks or take your medication, which can have benefits for your physical
health as well.
"Having someone prod you to get out and exercise might not
make you feel loved in the short run - in fact, it may be quite
irritating," says Tucker. "But it can be very effective in getting
people to change their behaviors in positive ways."
Staying Mentally Active
Curiosity and creativity help transform older people into
seemingly younger ones, says Vaillant, even if their joints ache and even once
their days of enjoying free access to the office copying machine are a distant
memory. Individuals who are always learning something new about the world,
maintaining a playful spirit, and finding younger friends as they lose older
ones also are making the most of the aging process.
The course of your own aging, argues Vaillant, is not written
in stone, or even in your ancestry. Yes, he says, there may be genes that
influence longevity, but because everyone has many good and many bad longevity
genes, they tend to average out.
Even if your present lifestyle isn't what it should be, it's
never too late to change. "It's a little like opening an IRA," says
Vaillant. "The earlier you start one, the better, but no matter what your
age, it's still worth doing." Everyone can make lifestyle changes that can
move them in the direction of aging well.