The Secrets of Aging Well.
Live Long and Prosper
You've Gotta Have Friends continued...
Other studies have confirmed the health-promoting power of
social connections. At the UCLA School of Medicine's geriatrics division,
Teresa Seeman, PhD, evaluated adults in their 70s over a seven-year period. She
found that those with satisfying social relationships remained more mentally
alert over the course of the study, with less age-related mental decline than
people who were more isolated.
No one is certain exactly how a social network may help you
stay healthy, although some research has shown that men and women who live
alone tend to eat less well, which could jeopardize their physical and mental
well-being. People with social connections also may have stronger
disease-fighting immune systems.
"We're still struggling to understand it," says Vaillant.
"People who use alcohol or are depressed are less likely to have social
support, and thus personal relationships are an indicator that you're leading
the rest of your life pretty well."
At RAND, a policy research "think tank" in Santa Monica,
behavioral scientist Joan Tucker, PhD, says that having people in your life can
make you feel loved and cared for, which can enhance your mental well-being. At
the same time, a spouse or close friend can also remind you to go for walks or
take your medication, which can have benefits for your physical
health as well.
"Having someone prod you to get out and exercise might not make
you feel loved in the short run - in fact, it may be quite irritating," says
Tucker. "But it can be very effective in getting people to change their
behaviors in positive ways."
Staying Mentally Active
Curiosity and creativity help transform older people into
seemingly younger ones, says Vaillant, even if their joints ache and even once
their days of enjoying free access to the office copying machine are a distant
memory. Individuals who are always learning something new about the world,
maintaining a playful spirit, and finding younger friends as they lose older
ones also are making the most of the aging process.
The course of your own aging, argues Vaillant, is not written
in stone, or even in your ancestry. Yes, he says, there may be genes that
influence longevity, but because everyone has many good and many bad longevity
genes, they tend to average out.
Even if your present lifestyle isn't what it should be, it's
never too late to change. "It's a little like opening an IRA," says Vaillant.
"The earlier you start one, the better, but no matter what your age, it's still
worth doing." Everyone can make lifestyle changes that can move them in the
direction of aging well.