Dorothy was in her late 80s and had been losing her balance a lot. Her son thought it was time for her to move into a nursing home. Her daughter wanted her to go into an assisted-living facility. Dorothy just wanted to stay in her own home. The three of them argued for months about this. In the meantime, Dorothy fell twice. She escaped serious injury, but the falls just made them all argue more.
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Eldercare mediation is the process of working with someone to help families deal with the legal, health, and emotional issues that come with aging. It's based on the idea that, with a little help, family members can find the best solutions to family problems.
Families often choose mediators to help them figure out things like:
Where is the best place for Mom and Dad to live?
Should Mom or Dad still be driving?
Who will care for them?
What kind of care do they need?
How will their care be paid for?
What kind of end-of-life care do they want?
Who should have financial or medical power of attorney for them?
Mediation can get emotional. But it's important to remember that the goal of the mediation process is to make decisions, not to explore family members' feelings and emotions.
Why choose eldercare mediation?
Sometimes people think that the only way to settle difficult family problems is to go to court. Mediation is a good alternative to hiring attorneys. It's usually much less expensive and much faster than taking the legal route. Left to themselves and with a good mediator to help them along, family members can often find good solutions to family problems. And since they come up with the solutions themselves, the members of the family are more likely to make sure that the solutions work.
Mediation is a good choice when elder family members aren't mentally competent enough to make decisions all on their own. A mediator can make sure that these older adults have a say in what happens to them. This can be reassuring to elders who may feel like the choices being made about them are out of their control.