Heart Disease Diagnosis Stressful for Spouses, Too
May 15, 2000 -- When Miriam Terry, now 76, found out 15 years ago that her husband, George, had heart disease, she didn't know what she was going to do.
"It was very scary for both of us," Terry tells WebMD. "Part of me was saying, 'Thank God we know what it is, and now we will try to deal with it and do everything that we are supposed to do.' But the rest of me was terrified that I was going to lose my soul mate."
Terry says she barely slept at first. She kept turning over to make sure George was breathing, or she lay awake, stressing about what their future would hold. "If he wanted to be physical, I'd wonder if I should back off, no matter how difficult that was, because I was scared it would be too taxing on his heart," she says.
Now, as Miriam and George prepare to celebrate their 55th wedding anniversary, she is more comfortable with his illness and the limitations it sometimes places on their lives. Still, "it would have been nice if I had someone to talk with about how I was feeling during that time," she says.
Many spouses of heart disease patients feel the same way. A new study published in the journal Heart & Lung found that 66% of wives of men undergoing cardiac rehabilitation reported that they felt distressed and tense, and had trouble falling asleep, after their husbands were diagnosed with heart disease. Distress was particularly common among the younger wives studied -- those in their early 50s -- than among the older wives, the study found.
To arrive at their findings, the researchers gave more than 200 wives of heart patients standardized tests to measure such things as their distress levels, heart disease-related stressors, and coping strategies. The results showed that the wives had worries about treatment, recovery, and prognosis; about their husbands' moodiness; and about when and if their husbands could return to work and sex.
"The most important message is that heart disease affects not only the patient, but the family members as a unit," researcher Patricia O'Farrell, RN, BScN, who conducted the study, tells WebMD. O'Farrell is clinical manager for the Heart Institute Prevention and Rehabilitation Centre at the University of Ottawa.