The Fertility Diaries: 3 Friends, 3 Paths to Pregnancy
A Second Chance continued...
The couple later learned that they'd put the band in the wrong place on
Nora's chest, which is why the alarm kept going off that night. Over the next
few months, the monitor's recording device indicated only a couple of real
"apnea episodes," in which Nora's breathing stopped for 20 seconds or
more. "Most babies have these episodes, though," says Jenny. "But
because these babies aren't wired, most parents don't realize that it's
happening. After what we went through, I couldn't have another child without
the monitor. I wouldn't have been able to sleep!"
With Nora feeding as often as every hour on the hour, Jenny soon found
herself caught up in a whirlwind of breast-feeding, day/night confusion,
cracked nipples, and sleepless nights. Her delight in her daughter sustained
her, but it didn't leave her immune to the stresses of new motherhood.
"There's no sainthood that descends on you when you've gone through
infertility or losing a child," she says. "I'm human just like
everybody else and I've sometimes cried right along with Nora when she's been
crying for four hours straight. But even during those difficult times, I'm just
so incredibly grateful for her. I don't want to say that other parents aren't,
but I just have this incredible love for her because of what we've
An Easy Pregnancy
In light of her friends' difficult quests for parenthood, Carrie found
herself sometimes embarrassed by how completely uneventful her pregnancy
continued to be. "I've been lucky. Apparently, I have one of those
pregnancies that they write about in books or something," she says. "At
all of my doctor's appointments, they keep telling me that I'm just average for
everything — I'm right down the middle."
As of her second trimester, Carrie and her husband, John, 32, still hadn't
decorated the nursery or settled on a short list of boy and girl names (they
wanted the baby's sex to be a surprise to them). They had, however, bought a
fluffy elephant baby chair, which their dog deemed an excellent toy.