The Fertility Diaries: 3 Friends, 3 Paths to Pregnancy
An Easy Pregnancy continued...
Her conversations with Jody and Jenny didn't revolve exclusively around
babies, pregnancy, and fertility, either. "When we had lunch at Friday's
right before the holidays, for example, most of our discussions were about
things like Jody redoing her house and Jen getting ready to host
Christmas," Carrie says. "We all ooh and aah over Nora because she's so
happy and so much fun, but we're busy women with full lives, and we do have a
lot to talk about other than pregnancy and babies."
Still, watching all the difficult experiences that her friends were going
through definitely gave Carrie a new perspective on her pregnancy.
Carrie: I've learned a lot. Until you know someone who's gone through
something like this and have seen how it affects them, you don't realize how it
totally changes your life. I've had what might be considered an easy pregnancy,
but for somebody who's normally a very active person, to not be able to do the
things you normally do, or to sleep through the night, or to feel like yourself
— it takes a toll. If I had a rough pregnancy, I know that Jen and Jody would
be understanding and listen to me complain and give me suggestions to help. But
as smoothly as things are going for me, I'd never complain about my pregnancy
to them. When I get in a bad mood, knowing everything they've gone through
reminds me how lucky I am.
In early November, Jody received some sad news: Her third round of
insemination with medication had failed. "Jenny e-mailed me, saying, 'Did
you get your baby yet? C'mon, tell me!'" Jody recalls. "I had to tell
her no. But the truth is, I had always known that the chances weren't all that
good with intrauterine insemination. You have a fairly small chance of getting
pregnant when you're using that method."
Jody could have done three more cycles of insemination before using another
fertility method, but she and Scott decided to try in vitro fertilization (IVF)
immediately. This more invasive approach has a higher success rate. The type of
treatment she'd receive is known as IVF with intracytoplasmic sperm injection,
or IVF with ICSI.
Jody: My chances of getting pregnant with in vitro are anywhere
between 45 percent and 65 percent. I like those odds. The drugs you take are
mostly the same, so I'll still be getting all those shots in my butt, which
Scotty will give me. Then they take all the mature eggs out with a laparoscopic
needle and then find the best sperm under a microscope and inject it into the
best eggs. Normally, they'd just mix all the eggs and sperm together, but in
situations like ours, where there's male factor infertility, picking out the
best sperm gives you a better chance of a successful pregnancy. I've been
reading posts in online forums about so many people who have all the same
issues we have — abnormal sperm, a blood clotting disorder — and have gotten
pregnant with IVF. That gives me real hope, and I think the fact that we had
already agreed that IVF would be our next step made it easier when we found out
that the last round of insemination didn't work. I'm comforting myself with the
thought that at least I can have beer and wine this month!