Fertility Diaries: They Dreamed of Motherhood Together
Lessons in Motherhood continued...
As Carrie continued to recover and enjoy her growing daughter, she received,
as she put it, "the kind of phone call you never want to get in the middle
of the night." Her father — healthy and active at 57 — had suffered a
severe heart attack. Carrie and her husband, John, 33, packed Payton into her
car seat and drove through the night from Cleveland to Indiana. "It was
really hard — my father and I are very close. At one point, the stress really
hit and I had almost no milk supply. Poor Paty had to eat every half hour to
keep my milk pumping!"
Fortunately, Carrie's father appears to be headed for a full recovery.
"He was really lucky. He realized he was having problems and went to the
hospital. If he hadn't, he probably wouldn't have survived," she says.
"Because I'm an optimist, I see a positive side to all of this: I am so
grateful to have a close family that enjoys being with each other. It may sound
cheesy, but I love my family!"
No sooner did Carrie emerge from that wrenching experience than she faced
another: going back to work after maternity leave — a decision that left her
feeling torn and aching to spend more time with her baby girl. When Payton was
12 weeks old, Carrie returned to her work in marketing, leaving her daughter in
the day-care center she'd chosen after meticulous research.
Carrie: The first day, I kept wanting to call and see how she was
doing, but I didn't want to hover. It's hard to be away from her, so I'm
looking for a part-time position within my company. She's so much fun, and we
had such a good time together during my maternity leave. The first month is
hard with a new baby, and the second month you feel like you're figuring things
out. And then the third month, it's really fun. I can't wait until Jenny and
Jody and I can all go out with our babies!
Hoping for the Best
And when they do all go out with their babies, it will be three moms and
three daughters. In mid-April, at their 17-week ultrasound appointment, Jody
and her husband, Scott, 32, learned that they, too, were expecting a little
girl. They've already chosen her name: Zoe Roze.
Jody: This was the anatomy scan, where they check the whole body:
brain, feet, toes, liver, kidneys — everything. It was such a relief to see
that everything was normal. When they asked if we wanted to know the sex, we
said, "Yes!!!" They said, "She's a girl." I was so excited!
Since this will be our only child — unless God has other plans, because I'm not
going through all the infertility treatments and IVF again — I'm glad it's a
girl. Scott was hoping for a boy at first, but now everything is like,
"This is for baby girl!" The other day he said, "We're going to get
her ears pierced when she's old enough and get her diamond-stud earrings."
I said, "Hey, baby girl's mom doesn't have diamond-stud