Mothers ... at Last
What she has made a priority: spending more time with Payton. Carrie,
a marketing specialist, recently switched to a part-time job that she helped to
create at her company, where she works Monday, Tuesday, and half days on
Carrie: Having a baby does make you look at the world differently.
Grass can be interesting. So can ceiling fans! Paty is pulling herself up in
her crib to stand, and she thinks it's just the greatest thing. The other day I
was cleaning her hands off in the sink, and she was using the vegetable sprayer
like a drinking fountain — facedown, faceup, soaked to the waist. She had me
laughing until I cried. I figure when we have our second child — perhaps when
Paty's around 2 or so — maybe that one will be more like me, all over the place
and bored easily!
With three little girls who are only about a year apart in age, Carrie,
Jenny, and Jody expect to spend a lot more time together. They got together for
another pumpkin-patch outing in October and shared their costume plans for
Halloween — Paty dressed up as a bumblebee, Nora was Boo from the movie
Monsters, Inc., and Zoë was ... an adorable baby. And these good friends
envision many playdates, picnics, and birthday parties to come.
"This past year has really brought us closer together," says Carrie.
"Early motherhood is so challenging, especially the first few weeks. You
have this baby, and she's so dependent on you, and you know she's a miracle,
but — "
"But anyone who says it's not really hard is lying!" adds Jenny.
"It's good to have people to talk to who know what you're going through and
won't dismiss your feelings." And who can help with real-world advice on
everything from cycle charting to breast-feeding.
"It's been so much fun to go through the whole motherhood thing
together, and have them to share things with," Carrie says. "That's the
kind of bond that lasts."
After all the angst that comes with assisted reproductive technology, you're
finally pregnant. You should be ecstatic. But instead you're anxious
that you'll miscarry, grumpy about the morning sickness ... and guilty that
you're not a blissed-out expectant mother.