The Fertility Diaries: When a Friend Is Pregnant -- and You're Not
Jody was thrilled for her friend. She and her husband, Scott, 32, were still discussing when they would start their own family. "He told me that as soon as he got his sports car, we could have as many babies as I wanted!" she recalls, laughing. "He didn't want to be that dad in the commercial: 'Did you buy the Harley, Dad?' 'No, I bought siding.' So in the meantime I was following along with Jenny's pregnancy and thinking that would be me pretty soon."
For Jenny, pregnancy was relatively uneventful, but her labor wasn't. On May 19, 2005, when she was at almost 40 weeks' gestation, her membranes were stripped to help bring on labor. The next day, her water broke. But labor stalled, and hours later, she still wasn't dilating. Jenny received injections of Pitocin to speed up contractions, and an epidural for the pain. Then her baby's heart rate plummeted. Jenny had an emergency cesarean section, and at 8:23 p.m. on May 20, Andrew Wyatt Taylor was born. "He was so beautiful, and so worth the long, hard labor," she recalls. Then, just two days later, the unthinkable happened.
Jenny: "My husband, Sean, and I were asleep in the hospital room. Our baby, Andrew, was sleeping in the bassinet beside me. I woke up to go to the bathroom, and on the way to my bed, I checked on him. It's always...you have the fear of it, but you don't think it will happen to you. But when I felt him he was cold, and I thought, No, no, no, no, no, no. I wanted to call the nurse, but then I thought, No, I don't want to be that paranoid first-time mom who's always calling the nurse, so I woke my husband up. He said, 'Oh, my God, call the nurse!' That's when I really freaked out. The nurse grabbed Andrew and ran down the hall with him, calling 'Code Pink.' Everybody came running immediately.
"When they asked if we wanted him baptized, that's sort of when I knew. After the autopsy, his death was ruled to be sudden infant death syndrome. It still knocks my breath away and twists my heart up to think about that day."