The Fertility Diaries: When a Friend Is Pregnant — and You're Not
"Everything we'd gone through was devastating, but at least we finally
had a plan of action, and I felt so confident with our new doctor that I was
able to find some peace with all our issues."
As the summer of 2006 stretched on, all that Jody, Carrie, and Jenny could
do was simply wait and wonder. Would Jody's fertility treatments work this
time? Would Carrie's pregnancy continue to progress smoothly? Would Jenny's
second child be born healthy and thriving -- and come home with her safely?
These unanswered questions left three good friends struggling with a mixture of
anxiety and excitement. But they knew one thing for sure: Whatever happened,
they'd get through it together.
Fertility: The Facts
Trying to conceive can feel anything but normal. Here, how Americans fare in
the quest for baby.
85% of couples will become pregnant without assistance after a year of
regular, unprotected intercourse.
10% of the reproductive-age population is affected by infertility.
43% more babies were born to women ages 35 to 39 in 2004 than in 1990.
40% of the time, the male partner is either the sole cause or a contributing
cause of infertility.
85% to 90% of infertility cases can be treated with conventional therapies
such as a drug treatment (like Clomid) or the surgical repair of reproductive
Sources: American Society for Reproductive Medicine; National Center for
Health Statistics, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
When at First You Don't Conceive
If you've been trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant for more than 12 months
(or six months if you're over 35), visit your ob/gyn. Most gynecologists can
perform the initial tests to help determine the source of the problem, says
Arthur Castelbaum, M.D., codirector of reproductive endocrinology and
infertility at Temple University School of Medicine. Here, what to expect
during your first visits.
Physical exam: After identifying any lifestyle factors that can hinder
conception, such as smoking and obesity, your doctor may perform a transvaginal
ultrasound to help rule out conditions such as fibroids (tissue growth on the
uterus that can block the fallopian tubes), and/or a blood test to determine a