Womb for Rent: Surrogate Mothers in India
As a guest speaker at many international infertility conferences, Patel
isn't fazed by the foreigners who beat a path to her door — including clients
from Taiwan, Japan, the U.S., Europe, and Australia. But she refuses to treat
gay couples, revealing her deeply conservative cultural roots. "I get
e-mails from gays and lesbians," she says, "some of them very well
written — but I don't feel right about helping them."
The people she does feel good about helping are the local women-the
surrogates — so long as they're not being coerced by their husbands or in-laws
eager for a paycheck. "I must be certain it's a woman's own decision,"
she explains. "If there's any sign of tension or unwillingness, I spot it
straightaway." Patel also helps to ensure each woman keeps control over her
fee. "For example, if she wants to buy a house, we'll hold her money for
her until she's ready. Or if she wants to put it in an account for her
children, we'll go with her to the bank to set up the account in her name."
The money gives many women their first taste of empowerment.
Achieving that financial freedom is hard work. In one of the wards, Sofia
Vohra (no relation to Najima), 35, is lying in a room with three beds, an
ancient ceiling fan, and wall paint that has bubbled in the heat like a nasty
rash. She is about to give birth for the sixth time, to a baby she's carrying
for a couple living in the U.S. She has five children of her own, a husband
who's a lazy drunk, and a job crushing glass that's used in making (of all
things) fortified kite string, for which she earns $25 a month. She became a
surrogate for no other reason than to pay for her two daughters' dowries, an
illegal — but still widely practiced — Indian marriage ritual.
"I'll be glad when this is over," she says, as Patel places a
stethoscope on her ballooning brown stomach. "It's exhausting being
pregnant again." Then, in case her complaints are misunderstood, she
quickly adds, "This is not exploitation. Crushing glass for 15 hours a day
is exploitation. The baby's parents have given me a chance to make good
marriages for my daughters. That's a big weight off my mind."