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Infertility & Reproduction Health Center

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Couples May Change After Miscarriage

Pregnancy Loss Can Strengthen Relationship, or Tear It Apart
WebMD Health News

Oct. 8, 2003 -- Pregnancy loss can greatly affect a couple's relationship. It can either tear them apart, or bring them closer together. A new study shows the outcome all depends on how they handle it. "This is an outcome of pregnancy loss that has not yet been named, but it can have a serious effect on a couple's relationship," says researcher Kristin M. Swanson, RN, PhD, professor of family and child nursing at the University of Washington School of Nursing in Seattle.

Her study appears in this month's Psychosomatic Medicine.

Since 1982, Swanson has been studying this issue -- how women and men can get through miscarriage.

Research of first-time fathers shows the baby does not become real -- or at least a man does not consider himself a father -- until the first time he holds the baby in his arms, Swanson tells WebMD.

Thus, when there is pregnancy loss, he and she will have very different experiences, she explains. "His physical reminder of the pregnancy is seeing her. But she has experienced the baby biologically everyday. That baby has been inside her. Therefore, their reactions are different when the fetus is lost."

Men, Women, and Pregnancy Loss

Swanson bases her current insights on surveys completed by 185 women after their pregnancy loss -- one week, six weeks, one month, and one year later.

Women answered two basic, open-ended questions:

  • How has your miscarriage affected your relationship with your partner?
  • How has your miscarriage affected your sexual relationship?

One year after the loss, 28% were pregnant, 29% were trying to get pregnant, and 34% were avoiding pregnancy.

How women perceived changes in their relationships varied greatly, Swanson reports. One year after pregnancy loss:

  • 23% said their interpersonal relationship with their husband was closer, but only 6% said their sexual relationship was closer.
  • 44% felt the interpersonal relationship had returned to premiscarriage status; sexually, 55% thought their sexual bond had also returned.
  • 32% felt more distant from their husbands interpersonally; 39% felt more distant sexually.

Those who felt closer or "back to normal" were more likely to be pregnant again. They had more emotional strength; they also said their partners were able to share feelings about the loss.

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