When the Thrill Is Gone
You can still rekindle passion and improve your sex life in a low-sex marriage.
Rediscovering What Makes Your Partner Tick -- or Hum, or Buzz, or Flutter
And don’t be so sure that you know that woman that you’re with. In her work with couples, Weston has found that people don’t always know what creates sexual arousal in their long-term partner.
“I try and lay out their own idiosyncrasies -- what 'does it' for them or what did it for them when they were younger and first dating,” she says. “There is often a moment of revelation: ‘I always thought you liked that!’ Or, ‘I always thought you hated that!’ And it’s often based on something the other person said 18 years ago when you tried something once. So they closed off one portion of sexual experimentation or behavior because of one errant comment.”
A lot can happen in those intervening years. Isn’t it time you found out what’s going on beneath the surface?